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Subject: Anti-Love and Break-Up Spells

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BREAK-UP SPELL

Alleged to Cause Discord Between Lovers.

1 Black Couple Candle or 1 Black Figural Break-Up (Divorce) Candle
1 bottle Crossing Oil
1 packet Crossing Sachet Powder
1 packet Crossing Incense Powders
1 packet Hotfoot Powder
1 packet Goofer Dust
1 Bottle containing 
    9 Pins, 9 Needles, 9 Nails, black dog hair, black cat hair
1 packet Devil's Shoe Strings Curio
1 packet Devil Pod Curio
1 packet Hyssop Herb
2 White Offertory Candles

Preparation: This spell is presented in several degrees of
severity, allowing you to choose just how much trouble you
want to make. In addition to the items here, you will need
something personal from both parties, such as their hair,
footprint-dirt, menstrual blood, semen, photos, business
card, or the like. The more intimate the better. In
addition, you should symbolically write their full names on
two pieces of paper 9 times. Use black ink for the one you
want to have get away and red ink for the one you want to
stay near you. Use black ink for both, if you want both to
get away. Whatever item you use, those things, plus the
name-papers, will be referred to as "the couple's personal
items." Work during the waning of the moon).

Doing the Job: Make the Crossing Incense Powders into cones
(use a twist of paper, pack the incense in with your finger,
and turn it out of the cone). On the Black Couple Candle
carve the couple's full names with the words BREAK UP
between their names. Dress the candle with Crossing Oil and
sprinkle it with Crossing Powder. For each of the next seven
days burn a portion of the incense and one section of the
candle. Pinch the candle out between times, never blow it
out. During these 7 days, you will work the spell itself.

The bottle contains 9 Pins, 9 Needles, 9 Rusty Nails, the
Hair of a Black Dog, and the Hair of a Black Cat. These are
to cause pain, anger, emotional incompatibility, distance,
and quarelling between the couple so that they will "fight
like cats and dogs" and seek to part from each other. You
have 3 types of powders. Each is alleged to produce a
certain result. The more you use, the more mischief is
believed to result. Hotfoot Powder is to drive someone away.
Crossing Powder is to bring about bad luck, trouble, and
illness. Goofer Dust is to mess people up seriously, even
unto death. Choose 1, 2, or all 3 powders; blend them
together if you want.

Mix the couple's personal items with the powder(s) you have
chosen, then put the mix in the bottle with the pins,
needles, nails, dog hair, and cat hair; stop up the bottle
and bury it under their doorstep. As you do this, pray aloud
for their intranquility and break-up in your own words; ask
in the name of your God or Saint. If you can't put it under
their doorstep, hide it in a hollow tree where they can't
find it, or carry it to the nearest graveyard and bury it
(praying for the death of their relationship), or carry it
to a crossroads and throw it into center of the road
(praying for them to travel apart from each other), or throw
it into running water (praying to have them both carried out
of your life).

CLEANING UP: Wrap up any left-over candle wax, incense
ashes, and unused materials in a piece of black cloth.
Secure it with black thread and tie it. Throw it out at a
crossroads or bury it in a graveyard.

PURIFICATION AND PROTECTION: Because breaking folks up is an
Enemy Trick, you must cleanse yourself and protect from
retribution. To take off your sin, prepare a bath by
steeping the Hyssop Herb in a pot of boiling rain water or
spring water. Light the two white candles, stand between
them, and pour the Hyssop bath over your head while reciting
the 51st Psalm ("Cleanse me with Hyssop; wash me and I shall
be whiter than snow"). For protection, drive the 9 Devil's
Shoe Strings into the dirt across the path to your door-step
to tangle up anyone who may try to retaliate and cross you.
Put the Devil Pods outside or behind your front and back
doors to repel any evil work that may be directed toward
you.

© 1998 catherine yronwode (cat@luckymojo.com)

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WHY YOU MAY NEED AN ANTI-LOVE SPELL
(WITH A SIMPLE ANTI-LOVE SPELL INCLUDED)

Dan Goodman (dsgood@visi.com) wrote:
> 
>  (lonesq@webtv.net) wrote [snipped for bandwidth]:
>
> > I need help desperately.  The man I love most in the world now or 
> > ever suddenly left ... over 8 months ago. There is more to the 
> > story, however, the essence is that he was with me for 5 years 
> > and as we got closer and closer to "marriage" he suddenly 
> > exhibited "cold feet" and yet kept trying to not be that way. 
> > Within 3 weeks I found that he ... was seeing someone else. ... 
> > I have tried several love spells ... Sometimes I get a glimmer 
> > of positive reaction, but nothing has gotten him back so far. 
> > He is ... strong willed ... with a block on his emotions... 
> > He has some very sensitive issues that foster the massive fear 
> > of being hurt emotionally and ... he needs to be in command of 
> > all that ... the love he gave and promised seems to still be 
> > haunting me and as i still feel that we are supposed to be as one, 
>
> To me, it looks like you would do better with a fall-out-of-love 
> spell for yourself.  Or, alternatively, one to attract the best man 
> for you -- possibly one you don't yet know; possibly this one.
> 
> He sounds like someone who would be a difficult marriage partner, for 
> one thing.

Well said, Dan! 

This sort of story is oh-so-common. It really breaks my
heart to hear it again and again.

A man or woman i call the "giver" loves a woman or man i
call the "taker."

The giver believes that the taker is his or her soul-mate or
best lover of all time. The taker plays a yes-no-yes-no
game, agreeing verbally, but physically alternating between
drawing closer and pulling away.

The giver declares his or her love and a desire for union.
The taker temporizes by promising all manner of things --
to have sex, to break off with another part-time lover, to
leave a spouse, to marry, to get off drugs, to find a job,
etc. -- without ever fully delivering on the promises.

The giver is hurt. The taker produces substitute gifts in
place of what was promised -- flowers instead of a date, a
date instead of a weekend together, a weekend together
instead of marriage. If the giver is deeply in love, the
taker can maintain the relationship on little more than a
few letters, words, or dates, without ever having to do
anything he or she has promised.

Sometimes, after months of disappointed expectations, the
giver draws away. Then the taker makes a big effort to come
through with something that was promised -- he or she breaks
off with the other lover, spends a full weekend, gets on
medication for depression, finds a job, or some such.

However, things soon return to the way they were before. In
short order, the taker pulls away again -- staging a fight
or blow-up, quitting the job believed necessary to the
couple's plans for marriage, being discovered with another
lover or using drugs, using cruel language, threatening to
commit suicide -- and the giver is again left baffled and
hurt. The couple may then split up temporarily, but the
giver persists in loving the taker, so the taker starts the
entire cycle again, making new promises and breaking them.
This can go on for years.

This sort of cycle resembles, in its dynamics but not in its
details, the cycle that occurs in an abusive, battering, or
violent relationship; the energy level is much different, of
course, but the raising of expectations for change and the
failure to keep promises are identical.

The couple may be middle-aged, too, not kids, so the idea
may arise that the come-and-go lover is not really a taker
but instead is a potential fellow-giver who is merely
suffering from "past hurts" or "fears" such as an abusive
childhood or a former "bad" marriage, or is having a
"mid-life crisis," or going through a "mental breakdown"
which must be fixed somehow before he or she will settle
into a loving union. If this avenue of thought is pursued,
the giver becomes what i call a "self-basting turkey," who
spends a lot of time trying to analyze the taker's "past
hurts" and trying to help to fix them -- reading books on
difficult relationships at the very least, but even going so
far as to deal with social workers, therapists, probation
officers, doctors, or an ex-spouse on behalf of the taker.

These efforts by the giver may conceal the fact that the
taker is ambivalent about relationships in general or this
relationship in particular, or that the taker may be
mentally ill, or may be drug addicted, or may be engaged in a
deliberately deceitful strategy of using the giver as a
stop-gap sex-partner or financial helper until someone he or
she deems a better match comes along.

Eventually the giver discovers something unbearable -- that
the taker has another lover, has gone back to his or her
spouse, is really homo/hetero sexual, is not in treatment,
is still using drugs, has been arrested again, or some such
-- and there is another blow-up. Then the cycle begins
again.

If the taker actually breaks things off permanently (usually
by finding another lover), the giver, who has been
self-trained into patience for so long and has given so
much, is devastated. His or her pain usually centers around
the unfulfilled promises made by the taker and on the fact
that he or she believes this was a "fated" or "spiritual"
relationship. The giver may find it almost impossible to
believe that after years of learning to accommodate the
taker's "fears," he or she has been dumped utterly and
finally. The taker, especially a very cruel one, may then
offer "friendship" as a substitute gift for the love or
marriage that was promised and not delivered, leading the
giver into yet another futile cycle of belief that the
couple can somehow "reconcile," especially through the use
of love-spells.

What the giver needs to do is draw a limit. I found mine,
when i was in just such a situation, from the works of Lewis
Carroll, the author of "Alice in Wonderland." In his book
"The Hunting of the Snark," Carroll introduces the phrase
"What i tell you three times is true."

This means that if someone says something THREE TIMES, if
events repeat THREE TIMES, you are justified in taking them
as "true."

Don't demand that the taker make any declaration of love
three times in a row; promises are his or her stock in trade
and count for little.

Don't warn the taker that he or she has "three chances" to
get things right.

Just listen to what's going down. Pay attention to the truth
in threes.

For instance, if the taker tells you THREE TIMES that he or
she will be somewhere on a certain date but fails to arrive,
then you have been dumped. I'm not talking about a situation
where he or she is late or calls and cancels ... i'm talking
about a date for which he or she does not show up at all. If
that happens three times, there's no point in your getting
mad -- what you were told three times is true. You are not
wanted. The end.

Do you need more examples? Okay, try these -- if the taker
says THREE TIMES that he or she will file for divorce with
an ex but does not do so, says THREE TIMES he or she wants
to make an appointment with a psychiatrist but doesn't, says
THREE TIMES that he or she is putting a piece of property on
the market to raise money to move in with you but doesn't,
says THREE TIMES that your "intensity" makes him or her
"nervous," or says THREE TIMES that he or she loves you more
than life itself but explains that he or she cannot move in
with you because there'll be "problems" with your children,
pets, or refrigerator -- then that's the TRUTH for that
person. "What i tell you three times is true." The
relationship will never get any better.

Okay, you don't believe me. You say, "But, catherine, THREE
TIMES doesn't prove anything, it's just a number."

That's right. It's just a number. So, okay, let it go to
FOUR TIMES.

It happened again. See?

Do you feel any better because you gave that person one more
chance, wasted one more day, one more week, one more month,
or one more year of your life?

I don't mind if you let the string of events run out to six
times or eight times or ten times before you get the
picture. But somewhere, sometime, you have GOT to pick
a number, draw a line, and stick by it

Once your personal line is crossed, it's time to take
action.

You still love the taker. You are hurting. What should you
do?
 
Either perform the black walnut spell (see above), or try
this 
 
SIMPLE BLACK CANDLE ANTI-LOVE SPELL

Carve the taker's name and the words "GOOD BYE" on a black
candle. Dress it with Uncrossing oil. At its base place a
broken or unlinked length of fine chain (you can find a
broken length of bead chain at the bottom of the Uncrossing
Oil i make and sell, or just break a piece of jewelry
chain). Light the candle and as it burns, have a good cry
and say "good bye." When the candle has burned about
half-way, use its flame to set afire a photo or name-paper
of the taker, then extinguish the candle in the ashes of the
paper and throw the whole mess, broken chain and all, away
at a crossroads in the dark of the night or bury it in a
graveyard. Go home and bathe in astringent and pungent
protective and mind-clearing herbs such as eucalyptus,
walnut, bay, and the like (e.g. 13 Herb Bath) and get on
with your life.

Good luck,

© 2000 catherine yronwode (cat@luckymojo.com)

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RELATIONSHIP-ENDING SPELL

Here is a handy spell to end a relationship. You will need
to know your astrology symbols -- but most cheap astrology
books have them.

1 Get a black piece of paper.

2 On this black paper at the top of it you want to put the
signs for Pluto,the Moon, and Saturn, on the paper, in black
ink, at the top.

3 At the bottom put a pentagram (five pointed star) upside
down, also in black ink.

4 On one side of the star put your birthday, on the other
you put your partner's birthday, also in black ink.

5 Burn the paper. As you do so shout "NAI-KAM-MO"

6 Mail the ashes to the person. (Only do this spell once a
week until that person leaves.)

© 2000 webeater (9904748NO99SPAM@tay.ac.uk)

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BREAKING A MAGICAL BOND WITH ANOTHER PERSON

In alt.magick, I Am Mark5 (iammark5@aol.com) posted that he
felt that he had bonded with an undesirable person in a
magical way by becoming his "warder," and the bond, which he
could not break, was draining him. He wanted help in
terminating the magical link and wrote, in part:

> PLEASE!! I beg of you!!!  What deities should I call upon?
> How can I destroy this evil bond!!!!! PLEASE!  From the
> deepest sincerity!!  I need no jokes, I am dead serious.
> Please!  I am desperate!!! > I beg of you all!

To which Nguyen replied: 

Look, first shut up and stop whining.

Second, if a person wanted to try a link-break, they would
have to evoke the bond again [to break it] ... They could
use a simple sorcerous ceremony to evoke the link. ... Get a
private room, and draw a diagram on a surface you can stand
and walk around on.

They'd diagram out a central circle one pace in diameter.
Then they'd draw another circle about one pace in diameter.

Then they'd connect the two circles with a line.

On one side of the line would be written the person's name.
One the other side of the line would be written the other
person's name.

Next two effigies would be prepared. A photograph with a
name written on it is nice. People with old fashioned
leanings can make them out of clay or wax. With some caballa
one could make them out writings on sheets of paper.

One effigy is for the person linked to. It's put in a bowl
or something that cooking wine can burn safely in, like a
aluminum kitchen bowl. The second effigy is of the donor.
That can be put into an ordinary kitchen bowl as well.

Next a series of things in a backwards-seeming order is
performed.

First, holding the effigy of the other person, the
characteristics of the other person are invoked into it.
It's then stuck into its bowl and sealed in its circle;
let's call it circle B.

Then the donor's effigy has the donor's characteristics
invoked into it and it is sealed into circle A.

The link connecting the two persons is then *evoked* from
inside the donor, with them calling it forth and projecting
it into the line connecting the two circles.

Then with some convenient wand or kitchen spoon or
something, tap the line connecting the two circles, 
invoking the line to represent the bond between the two.

Then after walking three times around the whole contraption,
counterclokwise and make drawing gestures with the wand,
kitchen spoon, laser pointer, etc. the force linking the two
is commanded to decouple and withdraw from the line into the
separate sealed circles.

Then the line is broken physically with the wand, laser
pointer, whatever and the link is commanded to break and not
reform.

Remaining are two potentized effigies in separate sealed
circles.

It's finished up by taking salt water (epsom salts are nice)
and banishing any connection that the donor effigy has with
the donor by pouring the salt water over it without breaking
the circle A, while commanding any connection be dissapated
harmlessly.

Then cooking wine is poured into the other bowl in circle B
and a match is tossed in and the command is given for any
link that the effigy has with the other person to be cleanly
and harmlessly consumed by the flame .

Then the mess is cleaned up in a normal way.

If you should happen to do this, you do it at your own risk,
and are fully responsibility for whatever happens. It's a
good idea to experiment with cooking spirits beforehand in a
controlled manner to determine what kind and amount and
lighting technique is most advisable in individual
circumstances.

nguyen (aikeena@my-deja.com)

[Comment by the editor: I would recommend brandy rather than
mere cooking wine -- it burns more effectively and a wax
effigy would melt nicely in its flame. You can use a wax
figural candle in the form of a man or woman as an effigy;
such candles are readily available through most occult
supply stores. The salt water could be prepared with epsom
salt as nguyen indicates, or with plain cooking salt, Kosher
cooking salt, or a special salt such as Dead Sea salt,
whichever you prefer. Finally, i would recommend placing the
effigies in matched stainless steel kitchen bowls set up on
bricks, with a fireproof tile surface beneath or, better,
performing the entire rite outdoors using two cauldrons or
camp skillets of the type that have three legs to keep them
off the ground. Always be careful when working with fire. --
cat yronwode]